# AITA for telling my biological son that he is adopted?

 I (36M) typically have a pretty good relationship with my son, Jake (12M). However, sometimes he can be a handful and although I try not to, I occasionally lose my temper.

A few days ago, I get a call from Jake’s school about him acting up in class. The teacher told me about some of his actions, which included pushing a female classmate, and I was pretty disturbed. I pick him up from school early since the principal said he had to leave for the day, and I start lecturing him in the car (I wasn’t yelling).

This sets Jake off, and he starts yelling that he hates me, and wishes I wasn’t his dad. This really hurt me, as I always try to be a good father to him and I felt this was really below the belt. So I responded: “You’re in luck, I’m not your dad. Your mother and I adopted you.”

Jake starts bawling, and hasn’t spoken to me since. To clarify, Jake **is** my biological son, I only said that as a response to what he said to me. My wife thinks I’m TA, and that I should tell him that it’s not true (she has already tried but he doesn’t believe her). I feel like if I tell him the truth then I am admitting to lying, and he will never trust me again. I think the best course of action could be to let things settle down and let my “lie” blow over.

AITA for telling my biological son that he is adopted?