A fujoshi is not someone who necessarily has a fetish towards gay couples or gay men, it could be simply someone who likes the genre of bl or yaoi. Honestly anyone can have a fetish towards anything and there’s nothing that can be done about it. Lets say if someone were to have a foot fetish or something like that, you can’t tell them that they have get rid of it, it’s something that stays and its not that individual’s or anyone else’s decision whether or not they can or can’t have this fetish since it is psychological. Also, if my friend were to say/ask if I’m a fujoshi, in today’s terms the implied meaning would be if I like bl content. On the other hand, rape, dehumanization, abuse and other stuff along those lines does not define a fujoshi. That would be considered traits of an indecent person/a person who commits crimes and that stuff IS indeed unforgivable (I’m not trying to say that it’s not bad), but it does not define a fujoshi. Someone who commits rape and abuse is considered a rapist and someone who is abusive but does not tie in with what a fujoshi is. A fujoshi is just someone who likes likes yaoi/bl content and in some cases does fetishize it, but they do not necessarily commit any crimes. People who commit crimes relating to being a fujoshi (such as rape/assult due to their fetish) do not define the meaning, they are simply people who are extremists.