Cuckolding as a concept is completely alien to me. I try not to kinkshame, but I think that the entire community surrounding it is unsettling in a way. From an outsider perspective, it just seems like dudes who have low self esteem putting themselves in situations that continue to degrade their already minimal self esteem. Every once in a while I’ll take a visit to the subreddit, just to kind of laugh at what people get off to. Usually. Today went a bit differently.

I started by searching up the subreddit dedicated to the psychology of cucks, and eventually made my way to the main subreddit. It felt like I was watching a car crash because I absolutely hated it but I couldn’t look away. I stumbled down a few more reddit rabbit holes, including guys turned on by watching their wife be IMPREGNATED by the 3rd party, guys who are into being repeatedly degraded and ignored, sent out of the room because their mere presence ruins it. I stumbled upon some videos of people regretting their decision and crying while watching the love of their life get taken to pound town, and then I realized that I myself was close to crying.

I got thinking, “How is this attractive? This made me feel like there was an empty, bottomless pit inside of my soul. This has to count as emotional self harm in some way.” and then I made a realization that makes a lot of sense.

Porn users are usually alone, watching people enjoy themselves far more then the user is. It can lead to self questioning, like “I wonder if I could ever do that to someone?”, or “maybe the reason I’m still alone is because I’m not like those people”. Basically, porn undermines your confidence by conditioning you to think about OTHERS having sex, not you.

Think about it. As a person who grew up in a very porn centered world (I’m 18 now) I can 100% say that I was exposed to these ideas far too young, when I was around 12 year old. It was considered normal to watch porn amongst my buddies, and it was frequently joked about. There was never any consideration towards the impact it could have on our subconscious. I fell into a deep depression for many years of my life while watching and never once did I think of porn as a possible cause. I had chronically low self esteem growing up, and porn absolutely added onto these issues.

What Im trying to say is that the entire porn industry WANTS people to be hooked on watching other people have sex. It pushes cuckold porn to the front page because once a person is locked into watching a person, watching two people have sex, it’s over. That person is effectively locked into a state of low self confidence and will continue to return to porn, over and over and over again. It’s a powerful form of mind control which is presented as a common fetish.